A Wedding Anniversary Guide

This article explains the history and meaningdaffodil (trumpet-shaped daffodils represent joy,
behind wedding anniversaries, offers some giftcheerfulness, and happiness).
ideas to celebrate the different milestones andGift ideas include — personalised number
provides etiquette advice for holding anplate, engraved brushed aluminium frame or a
anniversary celebration.personalised teddy in a tin.
Wedding anniversaries are an ideal opportunity for15th Wedding Anniversary - Crystal
married couples to celebrate their love for oneTraditional gift material is crystal and the
another and remember why they decided tocontemporary theme is watches.  The relevant
marry in the first place.  Historians have tracedgemstone is ruby.  Gift ideas include engraved
the origins of silver and golden anniversaries tocrystal tankards, champagne flute and wine
medieval Germanic Europe, where silver and goldglasses.  Appropriate colour theme is ruby red. If
garlands were presented by the husband to theflowers are to be given Roses are the
wife to celebrate the 25th and 50th years ofappropriate choice.
marriage respectively. 20th Wedding Anniversary - China
Prior to 1937 only the first and major milestoneThe traditional theme is china and the modern
anniversaries had materials associated withtheme is platinum with the gemstone being
them.  In 1937 the American National Retailemerald.  Recommended gift ideas include
Jewellery Association issued a morepersonalised anniversary plate, personalised trinket
comprehensive list of representative materials forbox or dinner service.  Relevant colour theme is
all the traditional wedding anniversaries for eachemerald green or white and flowers are Lillies.
year up to the 15th Anniversary and then every25th Wedding Anniversary - Silver
fifth year after that up to the 60th. This list hasSilver gifts are given to celebrate this important
been continually updated by various commercialmilestone wedding anniversary.  The appropriate
companies over recent years and todayflower is the Iris.  Suggestions for gifts include a
celebrants can choose between the traditional listsilver anniversary candle, engraved silver picture
as well as a contemporary list of anniversaryframe or silver plated champagne flutes. 
themes (which provides alternative modern-day30th Wedding Anniversary — Pearl
suggestions such as electrical appliances!)The traditional material associated with this one is
Traditionally, gifts exchanged or given in the earlypearls and the relevant flower is the Sweet Pea
years of marriage were practical household itemswith a green colour scheme.  Ideal gifts include a
to aid the couple in starting a new home togetherpearl necklace or engraved mother of pearl
(an extension of the wedding gift).  Luxury giftstrinket box. 
tend to be given in the later years when the40th Wedding Anniversary — Ruby
couple has already acquired things they need. Ruby is the theme for this wedding anniversary
The more cynical-minded might see the increaseand the appropriate flower is the nasturtium.  Gift
in gift value over time as an incentive to stayideas include ruby jewellery or a bottle of port.
married!50th Wedding Anniversary - Gold
The following section outlines the main weddingOne of the big ones!  Gold is the order of the
anniversaries, associated themes and providesday and the relevant flower is violet.  Gift ideas
some useful gift suggestions.include any gold jewellery or perhaps a gold
1st Wedding Anniversary - Paperhearts wedding anniversary album.
Traditionally the theme is paper which is supposed60th Wedding Anniversary - Diamond
to symbolize the strength obtained from theNow it starts to get really expensive —
interlocking fibres.  The modern take on this is aDiamonds!  This is the first of two diamond
clock for reasons to do with timeless, eternalanniversaries, the other being 75 years.
love.  The precious metals/gemstones associated75th Wedding Anniversary
with the first wedding anniversary are goldThe 75th anniversary is the original traditional
jewellery, pearls or peridot.  The associateddiamond anniversary with the 60th being added
colour is gold or yellow and the relevant flower iswhen Queen Victoria celebrated her Diamond
the orange blossom or pansy. Jubilee on her 60th anniversary of accession to
Gift ideas include a photo album, commemorativethe throne in 1897.
newspaper, wedding day chart, personalisedAnniversary Celebration Etiquette
poem, share certificate, movie/concert ticket,In the early years (say less than 15) the
photograph by a professional photographer,anniversary celebrations normally only involve the
subscription to a favourite magazine; have a starcouple themselves, and often include an overnight
named after a loved one or a clock.trip or ‘second honeymoon’.  However,
2nd wedding anniversary - Cottonin the later years, any children they might have
Traditionally cotton gifts are given because cottonmay decide to organize the anniversary
has always been associated with prosperity andcelebration for their parents.  For milestone
durability.  The modern gift theme is china.  Theanniversaries a party is usually the order of the
relevant gemstone is Garnet, and the associatedday. It is not recommended to throw a surprise
colour is red.  If you are going to give flowersparty for a couple on their anniversary, because
then the go for Cosmos (which means modesty).not all couples will appreciate the gesture; it is
Gift ideas relevant to the cotton theme include aalways better to discuss any plans with the
(personalised) bathrobe, towel or tee shirt, and forcouple prior to the event, especially as they may
china how about a (personalised) trinket box, mugalready have plans of their own.
or anniversary plate.Invitations to an anniversary party should be sent
3rd Wedding Anniversary - Leatherout at least four weeks in advance of the
Traditionally leather gifts are given based on thecelebration.  An invitation does not imply the
durability of this material being analogous to theneed for a gift. Indeed many couples are
durability of your marriage!  The contemporaryuncomfortable about receiving gifts and often
theme is crystal or glass (not so durable!)request that no gifts are given by the guests at
If you are going to give your partner jewellerytheir anniversary, perhaps they feel they
then opt for pearl or jade.  The relevant colourdon’t really need anything or they may not
theme is white or green, and associated flower iswant their guests to feel obliged.  It is important
the Fuchsia (which means taste).that you try and respect their choice, but if you
Gift ideas for the third wedding anniversaryinsist on giving a gift, it is advisable to do so after
include leather wallet, handbag or briefcase, leatherthe event so as not to embarrass the hosts or
bound book, engraved vase, perfume bottle, winethe other guests who did not bring a gift.
or champagne glasses, engraved glass tokens orGenerally it is not deemed good etiquette to ask
perhaps an engraved decanter.for a monetary gift although asking for a small
4th Wedding Anniversary — Fruit/Flowerscontribution towards a commemorative gift such
Traditionally fruit or flowers are meant toas a tree or sundial is a nice way of getting
symbolize a blossoming and fruitful relationship. around this.
Less romantic modern, albeit practical thinking,If traditional gifts are given it is normal for the
suggests giving electrical appliances!couple to open them later rather than during the
The relevant gemstone is Blue Topaz with thecelebration, although again this is down to personal
colour theme is blue or green.  If you’rechoice.  Personalised gifts make great
planning to give flowers then the suggested bloomanniversary gift ideas as the personal touch
is the geranium (which incidentally means folly ormakes the present much more meaningful.  If a
stupidity!)personalised gift is to be given it is often more
Some gift suggestions for a fourth weddingusual to include the number of years married plus
anniversary are cut flowers, a basket of fruit, andthe couples’ names rather than the date
engraved glass flower token, rose bush, or sharesof marriage.
in Apple Corp.The seating of guests at an anniversary party is
5th Wedding Anniversary - Woodreally down to personal taste although traditionally
Traditionally the theme of the fifth weddingthe oldest son sits beside his mother and the
anniversary is wood which symbolizes a strongeldest daughter beside her father with the best
and long lasting marriage. The modern gift thememan or maid of honor from the couple's wedding
is silverware.  The relevant gemstone is sapphireday and with their respective spouses also seated
and the appropriate colour theme is blue, pink andat the main table.
turquoise.  The flower you are supposed to giveTypically a short speech of some type is
is the daisy which represents innocence and love.expected even at a very informal affair.  Often
Suggested gift ideas include planting a tree, aone of the children says a few complimentary
personalised jigsaw, personalised wine box,words about their parents and this is followed by
wooden commemorative plaque, photoa response by one or both members of the
personalised coasters or placematscouple in order to thanks the organizers etc.
10th Wedding Anniversary — Tin/AluminiumAbove all, any wedding anniversary celebration is
Traditional materials are tin or aluminiuma celebration of a couple’s love for one
symbolizing the flexibility and malleability of a goodanother and can be as large or small, formal or
relationship. The contemporary theme andinformal and private or shared as you want it to
gemstone is diamond.  The relevant colour isbe.
silver or blue and the appropriate flower is the