The Infernal Triangle - Men and Mistresses

Mistresses can be very difficult to get rid of aftermeasly diamond bracelet and a golden handshake.
the novelty of the grand passion has worn off.It also seems deeply unfair that when a marriage
The initial mutual attraction is always tarnished bybreaks up, wifey-poo gets half the house, the car,
time and familiarity and tedium eventually sets inthe business etc, while a mistress who has
with all the inevitable and unpleasant side effects.provided acres more love and respect gets
Men have proved themselves in general to be lessnothing but a small gift of acknowledgement and
than intelligent when trying to deal with extricatingthe knowing smiles of all the friends who told her
themselves from an unwanted relationship. Oftenhe would never leave his wife.
it is better to lay your cards on the table andThe nightmare of men since time began is, of
state, as tactfully but plainly as possible, that youcourse, the mistress who steadfastly refuses to
want out. Sometimes, this formula works, butleave no matter what. In these circumstances
sometimes the business like and forthrightmen are rarely able to see the dilemma in its true
attitude offends the other party and makes herperspective, fearing for their own domestic
feel like a discarded slipper.security and often regretting their foolishness. The
A favourite get out method seems to be totruth is of course that most often the mistress is
ignore the situation, hoping it will go away by itself.genuinely in love, believes herself to be shoddily
Discarded mistresses rarely have a sense oftreated by the man and hopes he will change his
humour when it comes to being off loaded likemind over time. In the process of hanging on,
last year's Porsche so this system of terminatinghoping for a change of heart, she damages
an affair is not to be recommended. Better toirreparably her chances of being able to leave the
face the music now rather than try to deal with arelationship in a dignified manner. Such ladies
crescendo later on. Another disadvantage to thisalways regret their clinging behaviour later on,
method is that the lady has the long periods ofwishing they had walked away with some pride.
your silence in which to plot mischief and revengeOne lady who was determined to return all the
and you can hardly blame her when she is beinggifts her lover had bestowed on her over some
treated so shabbily by the prince of her dreams.years, had to hire a furniture delivery vehicle to
An expensive parting gift is always a good wayaccommodate them all and later bitterly regretted
forward in these situations. Better to avoid a giftcausing such a humiliating spectacle when the
with romantic implications but somethingman's wife had to sign for hundreds of unwanted
thoughtful which shows how much you haveitems. She said she felt tainted by the ensuing fall
appreciated the lady's affections. I suggest theout and now wishes she had spent a few weeks
gift should be expensive not to appeal to thecooling down before committing herself to such a
lady's grasping nature but to limit the possibility ofdrastic gesture.
it being thrown, in any direction but moreTime is the secret of recovery of course. The
particularly at the donor.age of the persons involved is also a factor to be
The amount of sensitivity shown at these timesconsidered. An older mistress is far more likely to
should certainly be appropriate to the number ofbe heartbroken when the relationship ends than
weeks/months/years of association. It hardlyher younger counterpart.
seems fair after twenty years extra maritalPerhaps the best policy is not to play around in
harmony to be sent down the road with athe first place.