| We can learn so much about ourselves from | | | | off so that I can bring my life back into |
| observing the lives of cells, the growth of trees, | | | | balance?” |
| the waves in the ocean, along with other universal | | | | It doesn’t always have to be a dramatic |
| and biological patterns of growth and self creation. | | | | dropping off. You can drop off something as |
| Nature is our greatest teacher. Since humans are | | | | simple as reading the morning newspaper or |
| a part of nature and our universe is 15 billion | | | | drinking diet coke every day. Some other |
| years old, it seems obvious that there must be | | | | examples of things that may need to be dropped |
| some kind of connection between the patterns | | | | off are: behaviors, beliefs, attitudes, ways of |
| that exist outside of ourselves and the | | | | thinking, perceptions, habits, jobs, and relationships. |
| unconscious patterns that reside within us. | | | | Other specific examples might include: smoking, |
| For the last 16 years I have been observing | | | | drinking too much alcohol, weight, television, |
| nature and studying the laws of our universe with | | | | coffee, unclear boundaries, frenetic busyness, old |
| the same question in mind. “How is our inner | | | | relationships that need to be updated, a |
| reality directly related to our outer reality, and | | | | troublesome employee, a toxic friendship, clutter, |
| how do the two affect one another?” This | | | | disorganization, grudges, anger, jealousy, |
| has led me on a long journey that has included | | | | unnecessary debt and unfinished business with |
| studying cybernetics, the sciences of complexity, | | | | people. |
| autopoiesis, chaos theory, morphogenetic fields, | | | | |
| quantum mechanics and string theory; coupled | | | | Here is a more detailed description of the |
| with NLP and many other psychological and | | | | universal cycles of change to help you identify |
| spiritual models. Through this ongoing research and | | | | which cycle you might be in: |
| many long–winded discussions with my | | | | Creation—This cycle is about new beginnings. |
| husband, Tim Hallbom—we’ve developed a | | | | Everything has a starting point, and typically that |
| model to help you consciously create what you | | | | point begins with an idea, an action, or a blueprint. |
| want in life called the universal cycles of change. | | | | Some examples of this include starting a business, |
| The universal cycles of change are an ongoing | | | | having a baby, investing in your first stock or |
| process that’s been happening in our universe | | | | fund, creating an idea for a book or a painting, |
| for about 15 billion years, so it is a really old | | | | building your first house, getting married, buying a |
| model. We have observed seven universal cycles | | | | new car, planting the seeds for a vegetable |
| of change that occur in all living systems such as | | | | garden, or the Big Bang (the beginning of our |
| plants, trees, stars, cells, and animals. You can also | | | | universe as we know it). |
| see these same cycles occurring in most nonliving | | | | Growth—When a system begins to grow and |
| systems such as cars, houses, computers, and | | | | develop, it also becomes “self organizing.” |
| the economy. | | | | What this means is that the initial creation begins |
| The universal cycles of change can also be found | | | | to take shape or form. New patterns of behavior |
| within all aspects of human life and behavior. They | | | | start to develop, and the system |
| happen in marriages, in business, with health, with | | | | self–organizes itself around the original creation. |
| families, with various states of mind and so on. | | | | For example, a new business develops a |
| We go through these cycles every day and | | | | wonderful marketing plan, the tock that you've |
| every year of our life. Being aware of these | | | | invested in begins to rise in price, the small tree |
| cycles can help us to consciously create the kinds | | | | that you've planted shows signs of growth, you |
| of life experiences that we want, and to bring | | | | install fancy hubcaps and new seat covers in your |
| forth the reality of our choice. The people who do | | | | car, or your child speaks its first words and takes |
| well in life are naturally attuned to these cycles of | | | | her first steps. |
| change. | | | | Complexity to Maturity—As a system begins |
| Here is a brief description of the seven universal | | | | to take shape and form through continued |
| cycles of change that have been identified (A | | | | growth, it becomes more complex to the point |
| more detailed description of these cycles is | | | | where it reaches a “steady state.” A |
| provided later in the article): | | | | system operates at its best when it is in a |
| Creation–This cycle is about new beginnings. | | | | steady state. Some examples of a steady state |
| All systems must have a starting point of some | | | | are when things are going exceptionally well in |
| kind. | | | | your job, when an athlete enters into the zone, |
| Growth–when a living system begins to grow | | | | when the tree that you have planted is sprouting |
| and develop, it becomes “self organizing.” | | | | beautiful green leaves, when your marriage is |
| Complexity to Maturity–As a system begins | | | | going incredibly well, the car that you bought is |
| to take shape and form through continued | | | | running great, the stock that you have invested in |
| growth, it becomes more complex to the point | | | | has made a big jump in the right direction, or |
| where it reaches what we call a “steady | | | | when you're feeling good about yourself and |
| state. “A system operates at its best when it | | | | everything in your life. |
| is in a steady state. | | | | Turbulence–Feedback—When the system |
| Turbulence–When the system becomes too | | | | becomes too complex in its growth and |
| complex in its growth, problems begin to develop | | | | development, problems begin to develop and |
| and turbulence sets in. Turbulence is considered | | | | turbulence sets is. Turbulence is considered |
| feedback from the environment that the | | | | feedback from the environment that the |
| system's complex state can no longer be | | | | system's complex state can no longer be |
| supported. Something has to shift for it to go to | | | | supported—and that something has to be |
| the next level of creation and growth. If this shift | | | | reorganized, changed, or dropped off. For |
| does not occur, then chaos will set in. | | | | example, you may have hired someone to work |
| Chaos–This is when the system begins to fall | | | | for you and that person isn't working out, you |
| apart because it has become too complex, and | | | | may start noticing some serious communication |
| chaos sets it. The system can no longer hold it all | | | | problems in your marriage that are effecting your |
| together. | | | | individual health and well–being, the leaves on |
| Droppings Off–Once chaos has set in, there | | | | the tree that you planted begin to change color, |
| must be some kind of a letting go or dropping off | | | | you may have invested in a stock and it begins |
| to bring the system back into balance. | | | | to drop, you develop a minor physical symptom |
| Meditation and Dormancy– This is the final | | | | that is distracting, you notice signs of depression |
| cycle in which the ystem regains its balance, | | | | or dissatisfaction in your life, or your car starts |
| which will allow it to recycle back up into… | | | | making funny little sounds. |
| Creation. The system now has less mass, yet | | | | Chaos—This is when the system completely |
| more energy because it contains all the learnings | | | | falls apart and chaos sets in. For example, the |
| from the previous cycles.Everything in our | | | | leaves on the tree turn brown and shrivel up, the |
| universe evolves and grows, and has been doing | | | | troublesome employee acts out to the point |
| so for billions of years. Part of this natural | | | | where the overall welfare of the business is |
| evolutionary process includes going through | | | | threatened, the stock that you bought takes a |
| different states of change. Let's take a tree for | | | | huge drop, your marriage is completely falling |
| example, since its the easiest metaphor I've | | | | apart, you get seriously ill, or the funny sound |
| found to describe the universal cycles of change. | | | | that your car was making turns into a loud |
| The first cycle that a tree goes through is that of | | | | choking sound and grey–blue smoke starts |
| creation, which happens when a seed gets | | | | blowing out the tail pipe. |
| planted. Then the tree grows—given that it has | | | | Droppings Off and Reorganization—Sometimes |
| been provided with enough water and sunshine to | | | | life becomes so complex that chaos sets in and |
| grow. Over time the tree reaches a steady state | | | | you have to drop off something to help the |
| of maturity in which all of its leaves have | | | | system regain its overall balance. For example, |
| blossomed with complete beauty. Then the | | | | when the snake sheds its skin or the leaves drop |
| autumn season sets in; the leaves begin to | | | | off the tree—these are considered to be |
| change color. They turn brown and drop off to | | | | droppings off. Even having to replace a part on |
| the ground. After this happens, the tree stands in | | | | your car is a form of dropping off or a form of |
| dormancy without any leaves. But then spring | | | | reorganization. In order to move forward through |
| comes around, the tree sprouts new leaves and | | | | a difficult life challenge you often need to let go of |
| the whole process of creation happens again. | | | | a limiting belief, a dysfunctional relationship, change |
| Because all living systems get too complex in their | | | | a behavior, or reorganize how you view the |
| growth and development, they must have some | | | | world; thus making the space in your life to |
| kind of a dropping off to regain their balance. | | | | create something wonderfully new. All life forms in |
| Trees do this all the time with their leaves. We | | | | this universe such as trees, snakes, and even |
| can learn a lot by modelling trees. Have you ever | | | | stars allow for this natural dropping off cycle to |
| been walking by a tree and its leaves are falling | | | | occur; as well as nonliving forms such as |
| off. And all of a sudden you hear the tree crying | | | | computers with animated trash bins. The purpose |
| out, “Pleeeease, don't let my leaves fall | | | | of the trash bin is to get rid of extra information |
| off!” This never happens. The tree has | | | | on the hard drive because it takes up too much |
| mastered the art of dropping off and recycling | | | | space. Human beings are the only ones that resist |
| back up to creation. Snakes are the same way | | | | these natural cycles of change. |
| when they shed their skin. I have never know of | | | | Meditation and Dormancy—The way a system |
| a snake to resist the process. Even most | | | | regains its balance is to drop something off. Then |
| computers have trash bins to drop off the | | | | it can rejuvenate itself during the dormancy |
| excess information that can slow down their hard | | | | phase, thus allowing itself to recycle back up to a |
| drive, which thus allows for the computer to | | | | new evolutionary level of creation. Just as the |
| operate more quickly and creatively. | | | | tree stands without leaves in the brisk cold |
| Interestingly, there is only one living system that | | | | winter, we sometimes need to go into a place of |
| does not allow itself to naturally go through this 15 | | | | meditation and inner silence. It might be |
| billion year old process of change. This same | | | | uncomfortable for a while, but it can be very |
| system allows itself to stay stuck in turbulence | | | | healing to quiet one's mind or to lay low for a |
| and chaos for extended periods of time. This | | | | while. Before you can move forward, you need |
| same system often resists dropping off what | | | | to give yourself plenty of being time to renew |
| needs to be dropped off. Can you guess which | | | | and rejuvenate. Once you've done this, you can |
| system it is? | | | | become creative again. You will have dropped off |
| Human beings of course. | | | | what was holding you back. Yet you'll still have all |
| People represent the only living systems that will | | | | the knowledge and wisdom that was gained from |
| allow themselves to stay stuck in turbulence and | | | | the whole experience. This sets the tone for a |
| chaos. They are the only living systems that will | | | | whole new cycle of creativity and growth. |
| not drop off whatever needs to be dropped off | | | | My husband, Tim, and I have found that it is |
| in their life. We see this resistance happening a lot | | | | useful for people to look at the different areas of |
| in relationships, career, and health. | | | | their life, and to identify where they are in the |
| For example, my husband, Tim, and I were | | | | universal cycles of change. For example, there |
| teaching a class in Australia last year, when a man | | | | was a woman attending a WealthyMind™ |
| in the group shared an amazing realization that he | | | | seminar in Dallas, Texas last November, who took |
| had about the universal cycles of change and how | | | | herself through the universal cycles of change |
| they related to him. This man had a teenage | | | | model. In doing so, she discovered that there |
| daughter who he had been unable to | | | | were three primary areas in her life that were in |
| communicate with for several years. After | | | | total chaos. These areas included her job, her |
| learning about the universal cycles of change, he | | | | marriage, and her health. She had been very |
| raised his hand and said, | | | | unhappy in her marriage for over five years and |
| “I finally understand why I have been having | | | | tried everything possible to make it work. She |
| so many problems with my 17 year old daughter. | | | | and her husband hadn't slept in the same |
| In my mind I still think of her as a little child. I am | | | | bedroom for over three years. She had also |
| now realizing that I need to ‘drop off’ my | | | | become extremely unhappy with her job, and |
| perception of her as a child and start treating her | | | | was 40 pounds overweight. She decided that she |
| like a young adult. It makes complete sense to | | | | needed to drop off her marriage, her job, and the |
| me why there has been so much turbulence and | | | | extra 40 pounds of weight that she was carrying. |
| chaos in our relationship over the last couple of | | | | This same woman reappeared four months later |
| years.” | | | | at our WealthyMindTM Program in Omaha, |
| Another woman who attended our training in | | | | Nebraska. She had lost 32 pounds and looked |
| London, England, told me of an amazing | | | | fantastic. I asked her how her life was going. She |
| experience that she had with her children and the | | | | said that she had asked her husband for a |
| universal cycles of change model. “Kris, I just | | | | divorce and was in the middle of transitioning out |
| have to tell you about the funniest thing that | | | | of her old job and starting a new business. She |
| happened to me last night. After I learned the | | | | had also dropped off some of her limiting beliefs |
| universal cycles of change model, I made the | | | | around money, which had given her the courage |
| decision that I needed to ‘drop off’ the | | | | to start a new business. She admitted that all of |
| co–dependent relationship that I have with my | | | | these changes had created some chaos in her life, |
| five adult children.” she said with excitement. | | | | yet she was happier than she had ever been and |
| “Even though my children are grown up, they | | | | was looking forward to her new adventure. |
| are all so needy. I felt like my life was all about | | | | We certainly don’t recommend dropping off a |
| them and there was no room for me. On my | | | | relationship or a job. This is a last resort. We |
| drive home last night, I set the intent to release | | | | always encourage our students and clients to |
| the co–dependence that has been keeping me | | | | start off by trying to drop an attitude, a |
| enmeshed with my children for so many years. | | | | perception, or any behaviors and beliefs that are |
| After I got home, all ‘chaos’ broke loose. | | | | related to their overall disharmony. If dropping |
| One by one, each child phoned me with some | | | | those things off doesn’t work, then perhaps |
| major crisis. One of my children’s car broke | | | | they will need to drop off the relationship or job. |
| down, the other had just broken up with a | | | | Especially if it is highly dysfunctional, toxic, or |
| boyfriend, another was having a bad day, and so | | | | abusive. Fortunately, we have NLP as a resource |
| on. The phone just kept ringing off the hook with | | | | to help people transition through these universal |
| their problems. I told each child one by one that | | | | cycles of change. |
| they were responsible for themselves from now | | | | In the case of the man who was having problems |
| on and that they will need to solve their own | | | | with his teenage daughter, it's not like he could |
| problems,” she said. At this point in the story, | | | | just “drop off” the relationship with his |
| she was glowing as she continued to say, “I | | | | child. His only option was to reorganize who he |
| just wanted to tell you that today is the beginning | | | | was within the context of the relationship. As |
| of the rest of my life. I am no longer | | | | soon as he stopped treating her like a little girl, |
| co–dependent with my children and I can have | | | | and started treating her like an adult, their |
| my life back! I am going to go back to school and | | | | relationship got better. The magic in what he did |
| I am also going to start painting again, and doing | | | | with his daughter can be found within the |
| the kinds of things that make me happy. I am | | | | structure of his internal experience. He had an |
| going to start living my life for me now, instead | | | | internal representation of her being a little girl. |
| of for everyone else.” | | | | When he shifted that representation to her being |
| So often people are afraid to make changes, | | | | an adult, then she started acting like an adult. By |
| because they are worried about throwing their | | | | doing this, he was able to create an entirely new |
| lives into turbulence and chaos. In the case of the | | | | experience with his daughter. |
| English woman, she was worried that her grown | | | | What happened with the man and his daughter |
| children would feel resentment towards her if she | | | | leads me back to the original question that I |
| was not always fully present for them. Instead of | | | | posed earlier in this article. “How is our inner |
| being present for her children, she ended up | | | | reality directly related to our outer reality, and |
| resenting them because she wasn’t getting to | | | | how do the two affect one another?” |
| live the life she wanted. Once she released her | | | | Our outer reality is a reflection of our inner reality. |
| children from the co–dependent bonds of | | | | What nature can do for us—is to serve as a |
| enmeshment, she was able to evolve into a new | | | | perfect model for creating the life we want, as |
| way of interacting with her children. And in doing | | | | well as evolving to higher levels of personal and |
| so, she found that she could be more present for | | | | spiritual fulfillment. The answers to creating what |
| her children because she felt more spiritually | | | | we want in life can be found by becoming aware |
| fulfilled in her life. | | | | of the universal cycles of change and applying |
| As mentioned earlier, the universal cycles of | | | | them to all the various life areas. There is no |
| change influence all the areas of our lives. The | | | | reason why we can't harness the same kind of |
| primary life areas that they effect are: | | | | creative potential that exists within the seed of a |
| * Romance and Love | | | | plant or a star in our galaxy. |
| * Career | | | | Barbara Walters was interviewing |
| * Health | | | | multi–billionaire Bill Gates, and asked him, |
| * Family | | | | “Now that you're the richest man in the world |
| * Money Matters | | | | and you can have anything you desire, what |
| * Friends | | | | more could you possibly want?” Gates |
| * Spirituality | | | | replied, “To never stop changing. Whatever I |
| * Your Present State of Mind | | | | do today, will be considered history tomorrow. I |
| When you assess each area of your life, which | | | | have to make sure that I never stop creating, |
| universal cycle of change are you experiencing in | | | | and that I am always changing." |
| that context? If any of your areas are in | | | | Suggested Reading: |
| turbulence or chaos, you may want to ask | | | | |
| yourself, | | | | A Brief History of Everything by Ken Wilber |
| “What are some things that I need to drop | | | | Complexity by M. |